Why do we do the things we do?
Wow. That is question to end all questions. Could you imagine the impact of understanding peoples why? I understand why it is I do things that I do. Unless we look at poor decision…. then I wonder what the heck I was thinking!
I have thought about this… and I have actually talked about it during my service meetings. This is what I think. I think we are reactive creatures by nature. We react to everything or nothing. If you touch something hot, you either like the sensation and choose to continue touching it, or you find that it hurts, therefore removing yourself from the sensation. So, if you knew that when someone smiles at you, it makes you feel nice inside, would you want that feeling? To feel nice inside? I know that I do.
If this is true, then it would seem if I smiled at others more often, they would probably feel good inside, and if everyone did this… we may just have a society that likes to be around each other.
I also think that we have the power to be proactive and not just reactive. Lets look at how you deal with someone being mean to you. There was a time I could get pretty angry. Really, depending on the situation, I can and do anger now. See I have a low tolerance for bully’s, mean people and liars. The point of focus is that someone did something that caused me to anger. Emphasis on “me to anger.” No one else angered, except for me. If I am in control of myself, that should not happen. Because basically, that means that I am letting others determine my emotions and outcomes. I am letting words or actions control me.
Are you okay with that???! I am not. I would hope that I could find it within myself to pull my control tight and not react. But we all have events that have occurred in our life that has molded us into who we are today.
Bully’s and mean people feed on our reactions. It is their food. If you do not feed the bully, it cannot survive.
I wish you strength in your pursuit to inspire others with simple things, like a smile.