How can you move past your stressors? As you enter into this fabulous 2018, you are dwindling inward, due to the short days, lack of sun, or cold weather. Many people suffer these depressed states during this time of year. Hell, I just made 3 new year goals, its crazy busy for me at work, my husband is preparing to go back to school and my class starts this weekend. Along with those short days, no sun and it being down right cold, it is hard for me to have the ambition to stay on track. When I can’t stay on track, I eat worse, I sleep poorly, my attitude sours. All of this starts a spinning effect and there is little one can to do stop it…….. Bull!! YOU can stop it! I can stop it! We just have to get past our mind, push those ego suckers away and find what can improve our outcomes. Trust me. There are enough obstacles every day for you, that you do NOT need to one of them.
So, what do we do to improve our stress and outcomes? You are going to have to get a piece of paper, or pull up a document on your computer and then,
- Write down your biggest stressors.
- Be real with your list.
- What can you do about each stressor?
- This will help you prioritize your stress. That way you can focus on what really matters. You will also recognize that some things are facts or structures. If I have a chronic disease, I should recognize that this is not a stressor, but a normal part of me, like my nose. This helps me recognize that my stressors surrounding my chronic disease will be what I can do to improve or worsen my condition.
- How long will that stress be on your radar?
- If it is a bill that you have set up payments, is it a stress anymore?
- Can you move these things off your list?
Once you have recognized these triggers, start tackling them in priority. You may need to cry, scream, or call a friend, as you recognize the stress. Make sure you be true to yourself and really think about it. You may find that once you write it down, it is less of a stress. The reason that happens, is because our minds can trick us. They can take one scene and change it into something that is far from reality.
Cold weather and poor driving conditions is a huge stressor for me. Should it affect my day to day life? Not unless I live in an area that produces these conditions all of the time. Yet, during winter, when I have to drive, especially at night, I freak out. I was telling a friend the other day about this stupid dream I used to have repeatedly. When I say used to, I mean this was probably 20 years ago. Yep, still gives me worry.
I am driving home late night. Nobody else is out on the road. A group of deer are running across the road and stop. I start to brake, while my heart starts racing. As the deer sense my proximity, the buck looks up at me. I am still trying to slow down my car. The road is slick with dew that is freezing. As I approach, I can see the breathing of the buck quicken, by puffs of white condensation emanating from his nose. The other deer scatter, but not the buck. We have eyes locked on each other. Just as the car hits, he turn and jumps right at my vehicle. He slides through the window. My car stops. It’s cold. I can’t move. I am pinned to seat. The buck’s antlers punctured my neck. I am bleeding and my throat is compressed. I can’t even speak. Then I wake up.
This dream is what increases my anxiety during the winter. I know it like the back of my hand. So, how do I get past it? I have to realize it was a dream. Yep, it could happen, but low probability. Anything could happen at any time, but I shouldn’t dwell on it.
Once you recognize your stress, you need to recognize what activities decrease your stress. Decreasing your stress will improve your life, health and outcomes. I have recognized that these things decrease my stress:
- Talking to my husband and children
- Making a list of tasks – I make it long and define each task, so that I have more to check off and feel more accomplished.
- Establishing order in my presence – I like clean and organized areas. It makes an environment that I can be uber productive.
- Working with art, in the forms of music, photography, writing, drawing and painting.
- Exercising – Lord or Lord do I feel good when I exercise regularly. It is like a drug. I feel amazing.
Now you need to define what decreases your stress and work on it. Make sure to set aside time regularly, that you can use your techniques to keep stress levels low. YOU can decrease your stress. YOU can recognize what you need. YOU can take control of YOU and your health. YOU can get past your mind by realizing what is stress and what you can do about it. YOU can make a plan using your goals and stress points as your guide to improve your mind, body and spirit.
Recognize, Prioritize, De-Stress and Your Outcomes Will Improve